For next week’s upcoming Valentine’s Day I’ve renovated my perspective on Romance;#5 of the 16 categories to be covered as a couples’ compatibilty review. I’ve already confessed to idealism ( in blog post under that title) so I’m sure revealing I’m a die hard romantic will be no surprise. That does not mean I am a romance novel fan. Within one page, those fantasies never seemed plausible even as fantasies. The tension between the sublimation of sex and the eventual ecstatically sublime sexual consummation found in most romance novels seems much less believable than that found in the fantasy genre of authors such as Diana Gabaldon and T.H. White. The desire to serve and support the growth of lover,family, and community is a romance that has no need of fancy packaging or theatrical extravagances.I’ve always been a bit wary of the traditional accoutrements of romance:candy, flowers,jewelry etc. It is the gifts that a quest such as the search for the healing Grail brings that indicate real devotion. The grail quest is a journey whose true gifts are presented by the journey itself, not the attainment of the destination.Big Romance is more likely to be found in the often unacknowledged acts of loyalty, protection, truth, and compromise. This is the romance I relish watching spring to life, born of a genuine intention to create and share beauty. There is no way for such a romance to fail, for even if it is rebuffed by the intended, it will always still be there for someone else to enjoy. Lit with colors and flame of fire or candle, steeped in aromas of incense or nature and surrounded by melodies of the ethereal or elemental, offer up the dance of Romance, and Have a Happy Valentine’s Day!